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Sunday, June 29, 2008

Debating counsel from leaders. I wonder sometimes if there are those that spend too much time picking apart the words of the Church leaders. I wonder what value there is in looking for the meanings behind the meanings. I wonder if there isn’t at least a slight bit of danger trying to “read between the lines.” I wonder if in such situations, folks aren’t just trying to justify their own, contrary positions. Not totally unrelated, I wonder if some folks rely too much on the positions of their peers, simply because they (the peers) are outspoken, well-spoken, or both. Sometimes I think people confuse education with authority. The ability to clearly express oneself doesn’t make one an authority on a subject, nor for that matter even a reliable source on a subject.

Love, tolerance and acceptance: I think that too often as a society we interpret the commandment to love one another as a commandment to be tolerant or accepting of one another or, more precisely, with a commandment to be tolerant and accepting of otherwise unacceptable behavior. I say ENOUGH ALREADY! It’s long past time for people to take a stand against unacceptable behavior. One only need look back over recent history to realize that the more society tolerates unacceptable behavior the more acceptable that behavior becomes and consequently, the more base we become as a society.

Expressed another way, think of a scale from 1 to 10, with one being the most crime-free society or the most utopian society and 10 being the worst. Let each of the numbers in between represent whatever behaviors you wish them to represent, so long as the behavior associated with each number becomes increasingly worse as the number increases. One doesn’t have to think about it very long to realize that as our utopian society becomes more tolerant and more accepting of behavior number 2, behavior number 3 starts looking better or at the very least “less bad.” Such continues to be the case as we move up the scale.

I say again, a command to love another is not, in my humble opinion, a command to tolerate another’s unacceptable behavior.

Discrimination. I’m about to the point that if I hear someone else claim they’ve been discriminated against because society won’t accept their behavior as “normal”, I may give them a discrimination 2 x 4 upside the head. The whole argument is so nearly absurd as to be unworthy of discussion. I’m not talking about legitimate claims of discrimination because of race, religion, sex (male vs female) or age. I’m talking about those who feel they are “entitled” to some societal benefit despite the fact that they haven’t complied with the requirements for obtaining that benefit. Rather than conforming to what is acceptable, they wish the rest of us to accept their alternative positions and bestow upon them their “rights.” What a load of crap.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Amen, Brother!

Bethany said...

Wow, I didn't know you had so much thought in you! :) See, I knew you could "make" the time to blog. You've just gotta think of something interesting to say... and you did:)

I, of course, have a new posting, too!

RJ said...

Hey Darin, My thought is that it seems to me that the potential drawback of listing other people's sins in this way is that it is easy to get caught up in the fed up, angry, frustrated, annoyed, better-than kind of feelings that are temptations when we are focused on our own "clean hands" (Alma 5:19), paying less attention to the second part of that commandment to have a "pure heart". So whatever we decide as a society and as individuals about what the right way to show love outwardly is, there is no question that Jesus commanded us to FEEL patience, kindness, forgiveness, charity, mercy, and love in our hearts in whatever actions we take toward those who struggle.

One person who showed me this is my dad. He has only grown better and better at feeling those things toward me when I struggle and it has definitely invited me in a powerful way to turn to him for help instead of try to hide my problems from him or prove to him that they aren't problems. Also, I think his soft heart has also made it possible for him to see me more clearly and topics where he used to find fault with me he doesn't as much.

I want to be more like my dad in this, I'm always trying to focus on having both clean hands and a pure heart so I can be more helpful to those who struggle and so I can struggle less myself. And since I stink at it mostly it sure is nice to know that Heavenly Father is so forgiving of our efforts to find rightness with both our outward behaviors and our hearts.

Darin said...

Rachel:

What a pleasant surprise to see you've left a comment! That makes my day! My reply to you:

I don't know that I made specific mention of anyone or their sins, so I'm not quite sure to what you refer. I also didn't mean to suggest that I am somehow better than the next person. We both know that I am not.

I do not disagree with you that we are all commanded to be patient, loving, kind, ______ (fill in your favorite warm, fuzzy adjective) toward the individual. My point, however, is that I do not believe we are commanded to be accepting of unacceptable behaviors. I also believe that if we are so "loving" and "accepting" and "tolerant" of the sinner so as to be unable to condemn the sin, then quite possibly we are not being true to what we profess to believe.

Difficult as it may be for some to grasp the concept, it is possible to both love the sinner and condemn the sin. I know that first hand as one who has been loved while my actions have been condemned. I've appreciated good friends who have been concerned enough with me and who have loved me enough that they have felt comfortable stepping up and telling me where I need to make a course correction.

RJ said...

The thing is, is that loving people is hard. And loving people who do things that make you want to arm yourself with a 2x4 is even harder. I can barely love the people that I actually love, let alone people who do things that I disagree with. Jesus didn't talk about love all the time because it was easy, he talked about it because it's hard. In fact it's so hard that it stands as the only requirement to join our Father in Heaven.

So while we often throw out the principle of loving the sinner and hating the sin, the hard part is actually feeling those "warm, fuzzy adjectives" that we give only a passing nod in our haste to get to the part that comes a lot more naturally to us - condemning others' sins.

At least that's how I've experienced the world. I stink at loving people who do wrong. Of course that doesn't mean I should call their wrong right, but I have felt a lot better about life when I became aware that I was failing at the love part more often than I realized.

And of course I read your blog, silly. I'm so glad it's there.